Sisters, gotta love them!

It amazes me every time I watch my girls. They can go from picking on each other to the point of physicality to absolutely loving each other and being each others best friend.

This last week has been very interesting. My youngest daughter who has never been in trouble before has been called into the administrative offices twice this past week. This is all due the a very troubled girl. This girl's dad died when she was in 2nd or 3rd grade. Since then her mother has been over protective and not really let her learn how to deal with anything. Unfortunately this doesn't work well in junior high.

While most kids just blow things off, this girl goes out of her way to invent things. I believe that this is really due to the fact that by now she thinks she is entitled to anything she wants and also because she thinks she is perfect. I realize that this is not entirely her fault. She has been very sheltered for quite a few years. On the other hand, by now she should realize that life is not always the way she thinks it should nor do people really care what she thinks.

This has come to a head in school and unfortunately my youngest is being affected by it. The girls has named my daughter as being one of the many that seems to pick on her by pointing out the obvious. The girl and her mother came into school to complain or discuss what has been happening. During the meeting the girl and her mom named the entire class as picking on this girl. They brought up things that happened all the way back to 2nd and 3rd grade. Now to me that speaks of real mental issues. I've know the mom my entire life and there has always been issues there. I just didn't realize how deeply those issues went. Hopefully this can lead to some real healing for the girl and her mom.

But more importantly I hope the my daughter remembers to think through what's happening and realize that there are always two sides of the story.

Catty girls

I know in my past life I personally dealt with catty girls. But now that I'm a mom it's worse. Now I would never say that my girls are perfect, especially when they deal with each other, but I hope that my husband and I have instilled in them some sort of respect for other people.

Now I know that during Junior High there are a lot of different factors contributing to all the odd and often mean behavior. The least of which is hormones. I know grown women that still don't deal with that very well. One thing I've noticed is that girls don't need to have hormones as an excuse to be cruel and go out of their way to get someone else in trouble.

Take for instance what is happening at my daughter's junior high right now. There is a girl who is pretty much a prim a donna. From the time she was two her mother has hauled her around to beauty pageants around the country. Now this family has barely enough money to buy food but they still find a way to pay for these pageants. I'm not criticizing their choice, I don't agree with it but not criticizing. My point is this, that these pageants have lead this girl to think that she should be given special consideration when being dealt with. Now for the reality check. The special consideration doesn't fly with other junior high girls. So rather than accepting this, the prim a donna makes things up, cries a river to her mom, and the mom calls school. Now this prim a donna only specifies certain students, mostly the popular girls who just want to hang out and have fun. Now comes the visit to the principles office and the talking to from the coach.

Now for the most part the populars handle it well. Of course there is the self-righteous anger and the wispering behing the back. But I found that what they didn't do worked the best. That was not saying anything at all. This really infuriated prim a donna. She didn't get the reactyion she wanted which was, a huge suck up so no one else got into trouble.

Well that insited another call from the mom to the school but the populars didn't care by that time.

Oh how I hate junior high.